This is my handsome boyfriend and I about a year and a half ago at the beautiful Chicago Zoo. We’ve been together for nearly two years now and I can say it’s been the best two years of my life – except for the fact that we’ve been long distance the entire time we’ve been dating. This is where we met, a small beach town in Nicaragua called San Juan del Sur. It’s a quaint town known for its surf and parties at the Naked Tiger; a temporary home for a lot of backpackers and where he stayed while I was at the hostel next door. We only spent two days and three nights together before separating to explore the rest of Nicaragua, but that’s all we really needed. We’ve been long distance since we’ve been together; I was living in Chicago and him in Michigan. Both of us were finishing school, but that didn’t stop us from seeing each other every other weekend. We also found time to go on small trips through the United States. It’s been a roller coaster relationship but, like they say, distance means so little when someone means so much!
This is us in New Orleans for New Years Eve. Those beignets were delicious!
In the Windy City, Chicago, doing everything under the sun!
And this is us now – I’m living in Taiwan and he’s still in Michigan finishing up school. We’ve been apart for 7 months, but in October, my amazing boyfriend will be coming to Taiwan! [hr]
Anyone whose ever done long distance knows it can really tear at your heart strings. And anyone whose done it and says that it’s easy is lying. For me, I’ve always said that I was a pretty independent person. I’ve never been that girl that needed a friend to go to the bathroom with and actually enjoyed times when I was alone. However independent and trusting you are, things still get really hard in a long distance relationship. You’re boyfriend goes to bonfires and picnics without you, you come home from a long day and want to relax with him, but can’t, or you find yourself doing insanely cool things or see something absolutely stunning and just wish he was there. Not to mention being the 3rd wheel kinda sucks when you’re surrounded by couples constantly. With that said, I’ve learned a few key things that have helped my boyfriend and I keep our relationship strong. It’s not been an easy ride but we’ve managed to do a year only 3 hours away and now are on complete opposite sides of the world. Yikes!
1. COMMUNICATION – I can’t say it enough. There are times even in long distance relationships when you need your space, but I can’t stress enough how important it is to let the other person know that you need this time alone. Shutting off the world so you can have your time alone is totally okay, but you NEED to tell someone what’s going on. If you don’t, your girlfriend will wonder what’s happened; are you okay, was it me, are you alive? It’s not fair for the one at the opposite end of the spectrum to not know what’s going on. If you truly care about that person’s heart, don’t let it drop into her stomach.
2. Trust – If you cannot trust your significant other, then don’t be with them. It’s as simple as that. When you’re in a LDR there will be times when he’s not going to want to sit on FaceTime with you on a Friday night. C’mon ladies – You shouldn’t either. Take this time to go out with friends and have fun and don’t worry about him. Trust, trust, trust or get out now!
3. Independence – I think it’s very important that one must be okay to be alone. Traveling alone can build up your independence because, let’s face it, you WILL be alone sometimes. When you start feeling lonely or sad go do yoga, read a book, watch a funny movie or get on your scooter and get lost! Independence can be hard for some people, but it is one of the sexiest qualities in a person.
4. Activities – Having a couples activity is a really good way to keep interested and have fun, too!
- Read books
- Play online games
- FaceTime dates (don’t skip out)
- Create a journal to send back and forth
- Do exercises together then send pictures of your results (keep it classy ladies!)
- Watch a movie together
5. WIFI – When you move into your new apartment one of the first things you should do is get WIFI. WIFI will help the communication flow much easier and you will always have a place to go to talk. These are going to be the best days of your life, don’t let a relationship ruin that. Still do the things you would do if you were single; go cliff jumping, take a long scooter drive through the mountains, go to a few bars with friends. You’re boyfriend will love your sense of adventure and you will love your newly found independence.
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